It’s almost as predictable as Miley Cyrus’ never-ending boycott against pants.
Like clockwork, just as the ball drops in Times Square, the onslaught of social media affirmations and New Year’s resolutions pour in with friends and followers alike promising to be better, do better and loose that pesky 15 pounds.
But before you tell the world you’re living #YOLO and are #OnwardAndUpward in 2014, think back to past resolutions that came and went. Like the time you promised to do that 2-week juice cleanse, join the Meatless Monday movement, or post what you were grateful each day of the year. All well intended goals, but when you factor in family, friends, the dog and your 40-hour plus workweek, our 140-character vows to live better lives quickly get lost in the shuffle.
Despite the odds not being in our favor, for some reason we all (myself included) still feel compelled to post to world “Hey I’m a bit flawed and this is how I plan to resolve it.” I get it. The logic behind it actually makes sense. By telling the world what we plan to accomplish in the New Year we, along with 700 of our nearest and dearest friends, are holding ourselves accountable to actually completing something.
But the problem with publicizing your New Year’s resolutions to the world is that no one EVER keeps them and at the end of the year people like me remember that you never took that jewelry making class, and eventually write a blog post about it. While I’m sure there are people out there who use the ceremonial incoming year to drastically alter their lives, nine times out of ten, it’s not us.
Take one of my Facebook friends for example who on December 31, 2012 wrote this: “Zumba, Title Boxing, Yoga, whatever. This year I’m hitting the gym HARD! I will NOT finish 2013 with a Big Mac in my hand!!! #NewYearNewMe.” Fast-forward 9-months later to this, “I love Five Guys and everything they stand for. #DoubleCheeseburgerSwag.”
Newsflash, New Year’s resolutions don’t work people. Why? Because it’s a surface fix to deeply rooted issues etched for years into our lives and psyche. If you couldn’t stay away from the guy who cheated on you in 2013, chances are you’re going to be reeled back in 2014 until you do some serious soul-searching.
Besides, no one on your timelines is paying that much attention to you that when you post of picture of you at your favorite cupcake shop they’ll step in and remind you of your January 1 post promising to eat less and move more.
Now I don’t want to be super cynical because goal setting is real and very feasible, however it’s a major lifestyle change, not a weeklong, Twitter fad. As we enter the New Year, of course we should all be challenging ourselves to be better people than we were in 2013. The key to changing our ratchet 2013 ways is a personal commitment to ourselves, not a declaration to the world saying what we’re going to do before we’ve had a chance to do it. Bottom line, make a vision board, journal your 2014 goals, tell a few close friends and call it a day. Besides, you’ll get more LIKES when you post the #PicStich of your pre/post chubby photos anyway.